The healing power of narrative

I frequently speak and write about the importance of empathy in leadership, as an emerging body of evidence suggests that empathy is critical when it comes to ethical decision-making and overall leadership effectiveness. What’s more, empathy can be learned, as a recent study with physicians so aptly demonstrated.

I was introduced to one of my favourite studies on empathy, also from the field of medicine, when reading one of Dan Pink’s earlier best sellers, A Whole New Mind. In one of the chapters focusing on the importance of story, Dan shares the seminal work of Dr. Rita Charon who pioneered the practice of narrative medicine.

At its core, narrative medicine “addresses the need of patients and caregivers to voice their experience, to be heard and to be valued, and it acknowledges the power of narrative to change the way care is given and received.” While still in its relative infancy, narrative medicine has very much entered the mainstream. Although Columbia University launched the first program, numerous medical schools have followed suit, including the University of North Carolina, the University of Central Florida, the University of Massachusetts, and Brown. The treatment of narrative medicine within medical journals has also expanded dramatically.

In one of her earliest studies, Dr. Charon separated students into two groups. The first group only kept the typical hospital chart, which captured all of the medically relevant data for the patient. The second group also kept what was termed a ‘parallel chart.’ In this latter chart, students wrote narratives about their patients while also talking about their own emotional experiences.

According to the results, students who kept both charts received significantly higher ratings from their supervisors in terms of the quality of patient care. Specifically, these students established higher quality relationships with their patients, conducted better interviews, and exhibited higher levels of technical competence than their counterparts who only maintained a typical hospital chart.

The additive effects of narrative medicine are provocative when considering its benefits for traditional healthcare. At the very least, once again, it appears that humanizing our work and recognizing the power of the human story has important implications for our work and personal lives.

How about you? What experiences have you had in a medical setting (or elsewhere) that builds on (or contradicts) these findings above?

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To err is human – To apologize is humane

Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of being human. At home or in the workplace, different opinions, perspectives, and values intersect to create interactions that are challenging and taxing to navigate, even at the highest levels of leadership. For example, CEOs rate conflict management skills as their most important area for professional development.

Handling conflict can become even more challenging when we are the offending party. When we are responsible for hurting someone, we often get angry at the person we harmed, avoid the situation, or try to rationalize our behaviour rather than apologizing for it.

However, a recent study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences highlights the importance of apology in repairing and strengthening our relationships. This research examined how people respond when those who offended them offered an apology. The longitudinal nature of this investigation also meant that the researchers could examine what effect the apology had after the event occurred and track forgiveness levels in the weeks ahead.

When participants received an apology after the conflict, the research team found that the level of forgiveness towards the transgressor rose significantly several weeks after the occurrence. Furthermore, the level of anger the individuals felt towards the ‘offender’ significantly decreased after the apology.

Two major factors contributed to these positive outcomes. First, the transgressor was seen as more valuable as a relationship partner, since the apology signified the level of importance the transgressor placed on the relationship. The apology also made the individual who was harmed feel more confident in the strength and stability of the relationship moving forward.

Second, and equally as important, the transgressor was seen as less likely to engage in hurtful behaviors in the future and genuinely desired for the conflict to end.

What were the most effective forms of apology?

Given the positive impacts of apologies to enhance the strength and sustainability of a personal or professional relationship, the research team was interested in uncovering the distinguishing features an effective apology.
Here is what they found:
1) Say “I’m sorry” – Not surprisingly, openly acknowledging regret for the incident was an important element of moving forward, a feature which has also been noted in research conducted through the Harvard Negotiation Project.
2) Offering a form of compensation – This signalled to the individual that the person was genuinely remorseful for the harmful act and interested in finding a way to facilitate with the healing process.
3) Taking responsibility – In many situations, a ‘non-apology’ is offered where the individual/party essentially dodges taking responsibility for their actions, but regrets any ‘inconvenience’ or ‘hurt feelings’ caused by their actions. It is a hollow statement of remorse, one that is deemed to be inauthentic and unhelpful. Fully accepting responsibility for their actions expedited the forgiveness process.

Despite our history with conflict, the vast majority of us struggle with making amends. We either avoid the conversation or make things worse with an awkward ‘non-apology.’

Making mistakes is a necessary and unavoidable part of life. However, when our mistakes negatively impact others, we can use the opportunity to not only repair our bonds with others, but also to strengthen them. The above research not only shows the importance of a genuine apology for restoring our relationships, it also provides a roadmap to better equip us to engage in these conversations more effectively. By saying we’re sorry, offering compensation, and taking responsibility for our words/actions, we can take steps to repair the damage to our relationships and reconnect with the people around us.

Posted in Do Good to Do Well, Empathy, Humility

Is giving the key to our success?

GiveAndTakeAlthough giving is routinely lauded as a key value within our communities, its reputation in the corporate world is more suspect. Many of us wonder whether giving to others is a detriment to our success. Last year, an international best-seller Give and Take by Wharton business school professor Adam Grant explored this question. Recently, I interviewed Adam about the many ideas he presented in his book. This thought-provoking and informative interview sheds light on the science of successful giving and provides practical tips we can bring back to our own organizations. Check out the interview here

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